Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Things That Turn Women Off

So The Good Men Project posted an article with the title "7 Things Men Do That Turn Women Off".  It's an interesting article, and maybe it applies to things you do in your life that cause women to head for the hills.  I don't think it applies to me very much, though I'd love to know if you disagree.  I'm going to analyze them one by one.

1. You have unrealistic expectations:

Do I?  I don't know.  On the one hand I think most women (maybe all) are "out of my league", but on the other hand I do have certain types of women that I find attractive.

I'm not a full fledged nerd, but I'm not a dumb jock either.  So maybe I don't have a league so I don't fit anywhere?  Again, I don't know.

2. You let porn warp your thinking:

I tend to get most of my understanding about sex from things people post online.  Do I watch porn?  Sure, sometimes.  But I understand that it's not realistic.  Most people don't have unprotected sex with strangers, at least not since the 1970s.  I prefer to let google or online forums I post in educate me on what people's sex lives are like.

3. You don't quit:

I'm pretty sure I do the opposite of this, with rare exception.  If I don't get the feeling that a girl absolutely adores me the first time I meet her, I immediately lose hope and stop pursuing.  Also, if a girl flakes on me I assume she hates me and is repulsed by me in some way.  I learned my lesson the hard way when you don't do this.

4. You're in a hurry:

In a hurry for what?  Sex?  If so, I've been doing it wrong my entire life.

Seriously though, I think I'd rather wait until I'm in a relationship before I have sex.  Problem is I have a hard time even getting a date.  And when I do go on dates I move so slowly that I'm 26 years old and I haven't even kissed a girl.  I don't think I'm in a hurry.

5. You view sex as something owed to you, or something to be taken: 

I don't know, do I?  I think sex is something most people do by the time they get to a certain point in adulthood.  No one is obligated to sleep with me, nor I them.  But, I think it's pretty clear that there is something fundamentally wrong with you if you haven't had sex (or had a relationship) by the time you're in your mid 20s.  So I think it makes sense to be frustrated about it and a little bit upset.  But it's not something you're owed, anymore than free health care or free housing are "owed" to you.  Because they're not.

6. You don't work to improve yourself:

This might be true, depending on how you mean it.  The only ways I think I could improve myself in the short and intermediate term, are to get a better job and to do some traveling.  I can't exactly have those things improved by tomorrow.

7. You've never accomplished anything:

What is "anything"?  I graduated college.  I've beaten my personal bests in weight lifting.  But I never started my own business (though I was part of senior executive management of one), or backpacked through Europe or built a car or computer from scratch.  None of that.  But I'm only 26 for crying out loud.  What do you expect?

If these are the only things that turn women off, I must be doing something really wrong.  Or I must be really fucked up personally and need a lot of improvement.  Because I don't do these things.

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